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Tuesday, July 31, 2007

'Why Would a Woman Lie?'

'Why would I lie?'The National Organization for Women, radical feminists and Women's Studies departments often deny that women make false accusations about rape by asking the naive, simplistic and self-serving question, 'Why would a woman lie?' It turns out that there are plenty of reasons women lie about rape, either deliberately or out of desperation.
Women Asked Why They Make False Rape Allegations

A U.S. Air Force study, The False Rape Allegation in the Military Community (1983), investigated 556 cases of alleged rape, and found a 60% rate of false rape accusations. As part of the study, women who were found to have made false accusations were asked 'Why?'
Motivations Given by the Women Who Acknowledged They Had Made False Accusations of Rape

Reason Percent
Spite or Revenge 20%
To compensate for feelings of guilt or shame 20%
Thought she might be pregnant 13%
To conceal an affair 12%
To test husband's love 9%
Mental/emotional disorder 9%
To avoid personal responsibility 4%
Failure to pay, or extortion 4%
Thought she might have caught VD 3%
Other 6%

Total 100%

The study found that most false accusations are 'instrumental' -- they serve a purpose. If the purpose isn't avoiding guilt or getting revenge, it might serve a more focused purpose, for example telling her parents 'I didn't just go out and get pregnant - I was raped'; or telling her husband 'I didn't have an affair; it wasn't my fault, I was raped.'

An unrelated Washington Post article, 'Unfounded Rape Reports Baffle Investigators' (6/27/1992) also found a wide range of motivations to falsely accuse men of rape. Anger towards boyfriends was common. One woman had her boyfriend spend 13 months in jail before she acknowledged that she lied. One woman accused her newspaper delivery man of raping her at gunpoint because she needed an excuse to be late to work. Neither woman was prosecuted or even reprimanded for lying to the police and attempting to have a man frivolously imprisoned.
Same Jail Sentence for False Accuser

Women who are found to have made a false sexual assault complaint should receive the same jail sentence as the male victim would have received if he had been convicted. That will put the brakes on fake rape.

Pastor Kenneth Deemer
Director Shattered Men
P.O. BOX 166


Monday, July 30, 2007

Another Completely One-Sided Article on Domestic Violence

male sexual abuse victim in filmAnother completely one-sided article on domestic violence in the August issue of Charisma Magazine entitled "The Sin We Hide From View by Marcia Davis

This is a portion of Pastor Kenneth Deemer's reply to Charisma:

As the director of Shattered Men . . I applaud any effort to end abuse, (but) we need to look at both sides in order to do this . .

Proverbs 21:9 "It is better to dwell in a corner of the housetop, than with a brawling woman in a wide house."

Proverbs 21:19 "It is better to dwell in the wilderness, than with a contentious and an angry woman" (see Proverbs 25:24 also)

. . There are a number of reasons we do not know the real statistics on domestic violence and the link below explores a few of them:


Truth can only be obtained when we listen to all sides of an issue. Most often when a man is charged with domestic violence, he is not even allowed to defend himself in court. Many have back door 'convictions' by attending an anger management class, which in reality, results in a 'conviction' of domestic violence, which will haunt him the rest of his life.

As the director of Shattered Men, I am fearful that by listening to only one side, we are causing more harm to women as well as men but most of all, we are causing great harm to our children.

In reality, the Violence Against Women Act does very little to help anyone and it has been destroying a great many homes resulting in many more fatherless homes with the resulting damage it does to our children.

Family violence has actually dropped but when a system needs victims to survive, to feed the cash cow, they have to come up with them somehow.

R.A.D.A.R. has several special reports on VAWA on their website and I do urge you to read them.

There is another reason to be concerned. I firmly believe that many women are harmed in domestic situations because we do not look at both sides. I am a mental health nurse as well as a pastor. I have seldom seen any conflict between two adults where both did not add to it. To place all the blame on one person is very unrealistic and it is counterproductive.

It is also a concern when someone is awarded for being a victim. VAWA does just this.

Another concern is that for a law with this much impact, I have to question why only one side of this issue was invited to the table to discuss it. No one from any men's rights, Father's rights or even children's rights was invited to the table. Would not this be like Congress preparing a major act on racial relations and only inviting the KKK?

From many of the sermons I and many of the members of Shattered Men have heard on Fathers day verses Mothers day, one would think that all the evils of society were only the man's fault while women had wings and halos and could walk on water. Neither is true although it appears these sites have the same view.

To the best of my knowledge, Shattered Men is the only faith-based organization to address abused men. We however, do not ignore abused women, as about half of our memberships are women. Many of our men and women were abused by the opposite gender but we see them reaching out to each other to help heal the scars of abuse.

2006 DOJ stats on domestic violence

Martin S. Fiebert - Department of Psychology - CSU
Assaults by Women on their Spouses / Male Partners: An Annotated Bibliography

Pastor Kenneth Deemer

Director Shattered Men
P.O. BOX 166

Web site:
Interactive Group:

P.S. JUNE is Domestic Violence Against Men Awareness Month

Investigate Nifong Now!

Mike Nifong in court
The Department of Justice must investigate Mike Nifong now.

There is no case of prosecutorial abuse more overdue for investigation than that of Mike Nifong, the prosecutor in the Duke Case who tried to convict men he knew to be innocent. Last week, Nifong finally admitted that the men had committed no crime. (see Baltimore Sun article).

Abundant evidence exists that prosecutorial abuse is not rare. Many individuals sit in prison today for crimes they did not commit. The Innocence Project has freed over 200 of them already. Is this just the tip of the iceberg?

Biased federal funding and training for prosecutors may be involved. One training program by the National District Attorneys Association (NDAA) demonstrates prosecutors' lack of concern about convicting the innocent by failing to include any sessions on how prosecutors should identify and handle false abuse and rape allegations (see source).

At least seven bipartisan members of Congress have called for a federal probe into the Duke case (see source).

Contact your Representative today and ask the Department of Justice to launch a full-scale investigation to find out exactly what went wrong in the Michael Nifong case.

Go to Enter your Zip code at the top, look up your Representative's name, go to your Representative's website. Or call the Capitol Switchboard at 202/224-3121 and leave this message with your Representative's staff: 'The Department of Justice must investigate the Michael Nifong case now!'

Monday, July 16, 2007

Katie Couric Must Be Disciplined

Katie Couric, male abuser
FROM: Respecting Accuracy in Domestic Abuse Reporting (RADAR)

Last week, it was discovered that Katie Couric physically assaulted a subordinate editor for using a word in a news story that she could not pronounce.

A unidentified witness to the event said that Katie Couric slapped a fellow male editor in anger "over and over and over again on the arm".

Couric grudgingly admitted to the assault in a New York Magazine article:
"I sort of slapped him around. I got mad at him and said, 'You can't do this to me. You have to tell me when you're going to use a word like that.' I was aggravated, there's no question about that."
CBS has not yet disciplined Katie Couric for an act which, if the perpetrator were a male, would have likely resulted in immediate termination.

Katie Couric must be held to the same standards of professional behavior that male employees are held to. Katie Couric must be disciplined and the public informed about the actions CBS has taken.

To make your views known, contact CBS headquarters. Call (212)975-4321 and leave a message for CBS President Sean McManus. Mail a copy of this alert to Sean McManus, CBS Television Network, 51 West 52nd Street, New York, NY 10019. Or submit directly to the CBS website.